Thank you all for the replies. I don't want to pursue (oh wait, that's totally a lie I want to chase like a fox chasing chickens). Cutter and pupy, you are right. That does smack of pursuit. You are right in that I am totally concerned with how she will react. I don't care how her reaction makes me feel. I know that feelings don't matter for squat. Results are all I care about.

I will wear the ring because that is where my head is. I am now back leaning toward not doing anything for the V day. Funny how I can be calm and dispassionate with other people's lives, but I can't make a simple decision about a stupid card.

Me 36
W 40
S 13, 9, 7
ILYBNILWY 2-08
Discovered EA 3-08
Reconciled 7-08
She says she's been faking it 11-09
She wants to separate 12-09