I like the points you make about how trying to rescue and solve cause problems and can create the impression that one is like a bossy teacher or Mom. Seems like a delicate balance. But also something that can come from hectic, stressful living. I can remember being spoken to as if I was a child by my H at times too. It's stress and exasperation talking too sometimes and it seems both people need to be conscious of that to fix things. Yet if you point that out, then you are being bossy and a fixer. So Catch-22.
