I'm not sure how you bring it up, but it sounds like H really needs to have a heart to heart talk with OW and explain that he is trying to work things out with you and will not be talking to her as much (or at all!) I understand H doesn't want to cause another person to have a panic attack, but if he was just open and honest with her, then this shouldn't be an issue. It sounds like until he is honest with her about his intentions with you, you guys can't move forward. Obviously all easier to say then to do, but it sounds like he's using these things as cruxes to hold on to her still. But this is definitely going to be a tough time for you I'm sure. It's really going to test his new devotion to you and your strength. But I agree with your idea about having a sitdown with him, so that at least if you make him aware of your feelings and concerns, he can be more aware to reassure and not fall trap to those things. Also gage his responses to your intereactions. For example, my H seems to have a panic attack anytime we talk about anything R related. It seems like your H has been open and willing to talk, which is a great thing. If so, that really gives you an opportunity to be open with your feelings and work thru them together. As they say, communication is key!
Me 27; H 28; S 2 Togeth 9; M 4 Sep 11/14/08 EA OW1 Sep 08 EA OW2 Mar 09 EA OW3 Jun 10
