Doing hard time on the MLC chain gang.

[Cie la vie]

MHL,

Hope you had a good weekend and enjoyed a fairly entertaining SB.

I wanted to pay you a visit her in MLC land as I have been following your new thread with interest.

Part of me wants to be her friend but not to the point where I will "friendly" divorce her and her life will go on with me in it as her friend if we get divorced.

I posted on CTH's thread earlier today and had this to say which follows closely to what you say above.

I feel the same as you when it comes to being friends. I will be friendly with the X but don't see being friends at least from my current vantage point. Maybe in time, but I look at any early post D attempts by my X to get together as cake eating. If the D is what she wants and gets than she doesn't get any of me.

This last sentence may sound harsh but my guess is my feelings will be quite raw post D and I won't want to be available to her on any level other than the business of raising our children.

The BS my W has put me through regardless of whether or not she is a MLCer or not will make it very difficult for me to stomach her by my side anytime soon.

(Post D should it happen)

The above are my thoughts/feelings as they pertain at this time to the very real possibility of the D going through. As you know it's not what I want and I'm going to do whatever is necessary to prevent it from happening.

I'm off to the doctors office to have my shoulder looked at. Catch you later.