Last two suggestions were pretty funny....but you are probably right in just ignoring it. And, do you finally feel that kick in the a$$ we've been hoping you'd get to GET THE PAPERWORK IN?
Last two suggestions were pretty funny....but you are probably right in just ignoring it. And, do you finally feel that kick in the a$$ we've been hoping you'd get to GET THE PAPERWORK IN?
AMEN...what are you waiting for? (Oh yeah, the check...) He's not "getting it"...he never will. So get the money before he totally goes off the deep end and there isnt' any money left. It's the BABY"s money...doesn't she need it? Doesn't she deserve it? End of story... J-
M: 57 H: 60 M: 35 yrs S30,D28,D19 H off to Alaska 2006 Recon 7/07- 8/08 *2016* X = "ALASKA 2.0" GROUND HOG DAY I File D 10/16 OW DIV 2/26/2018 X marries OW 5/2016
HAHA! Wouldn't I just love to respond those ways above? Oh, I would!
Trying to decide if I want to be in denial that it is actually SuperBowl Sunday by not watching the game at all or watching it and feeling lonely?
Me: 46 FWS: 36 Married and Divorced 4/07, Pregnant 7/07,False R 7/07 Baby Girl born 3/08 Kicked him out because OW: 7/08 5/10 He realized what he had and lost. Moved home! REMARRIED 3/14/11!!
if you want to watch it, have fun watching! if not, then do something relaxing or fun.
yes, get that CS in soon, 2-3 months is a ways away.
those replies were pretty funny, but definitely smarter to not respond.
Me 33 H 34 S9 S3 M 6 yrs (2gether 11 yrs) EA/PA 1/2006 DB 5/2006 H wants D 6/2006 H wants ME 8/2006 H "said" PA/EA over 8/2006 H erased OW off phone! 2/2007
"It is far better 2 choose humility & change oneself, than 2 wait in vain trying 2 chang someone else."
Well, baby and I survived Superbowl. I watched off and on and actually enjoyed the end of the game.
Exh sent a text after church asking how she was and then nothing after that. Maybe we are settling into a routine? I won't hold my breath on that one.
Next big hurdle is Valentine's Day. Try not to let it get to me that I am alone again. Last year was alone and the year before I was 35 weeks pregnant and 5 days prior found out exh was with OW so he was kissing up then. I haven't had a good Valentines day in a long time!
Me: 46 FWS: 36 Married and Divorced 4/07, Pregnant 7/07,False R 7/07 Baby Girl born 3/08 Kicked him out because OW: 7/08 5/10 He realized what he had and lost. Moved home! REMARRIED 3/14/11!!
Just now: Exh: Can I come see baby for a minute? Me: Exh, for everyones sake, lets both adhere to our schedule. Exh: I cannot always do that! I have a JOB! You are so controlling!
Ugghhhhh....
Me: 46 FWS: 36 Married and Divorced 4/07, Pregnant 7/07,False R 7/07 Baby Girl born 3/08 Kicked him out because OW: 7/08 5/10 He realized what he had and lost. Moved home! REMARRIED 3/14/11!!
I was married 20+ years and don't really remember a good Valentine's Day during that time. X used to say it was a manufactured holiday and no one should tell you when or how to express your love, so I didn't get Valentine's presents. It's just a day....and now it is my X's anniversary with OW.
I will spend it with my kids, they have my heart!!!
"You can't stop the waves, but you can learn to surf." Jon Kabat-Zinn
bnd, that's what my dad says too. although I think he does give flowers on other days..not often, but that's exactly how he thinks. and he's right, that it really IS just another day. it just happens that some person wanted to celebrate it. But we are emotional beings, so it's understandable that we want to also celebrate and be loved.
SO2 you are loved by many, and instead of being home alone, find a friend to have lunch with, or take your D out somewhere...do something for yourself, or have a little party at home and let your D help you make cookies or something for your other kids.
looks like exh is really hating this disciplined you. your doing good not letting him drag you down to his level.
I think it would have been WAY hard for me not to respond, I think I would have said. "I did not realize you were working during your scheduled time, please arrange with my/your(?) atty to get the schedule changed"
knowing that he isn't working during your schedule, but to make him eat his words I guess. IDK. and don't worry, you are not being controlling. sure you are controlling your situation, but he has his opportunities and he's giving them away, so that is his own fault, not yours.
I'm really proud of you.
Me 33 H 34 S9 S3 M 6 yrs (2gether 11 yrs) EA/PA 1/2006 DB 5/2006 H wants D 6/2006 H wants ME 8/2006 H "said" PA/EA over 8/2006 H erased OW off phone! 2/2007
"It is far better 2 choose humility & change oneself, than 2 wait in vain trying 2 chang someone else."
Agreed, better to ignore him - you are not being controlling over anything more than YOUR own life! Tough sh!t for him. Let him figure out on his own that he would have to go back to court to get the times changed - and then the court would see his disruptive pattern of non-visitation. Seriously, have you thought how those 10-15 minute visits are going to start to make baby crazy? Get her all excited and worked up, then disappear! He is an A$$ with NO idea or care of what effect his actions have on others!!
Your class sounds great, btw...hope it goes quickly and you are able to find work. But do be aware of the pitfalls of working from home - make sure to schedule grown-up, mommy time!
Next big hurdle is Valentine's Day. Try not to let it get to me that I am alone again. Last year was alone and the year before I was 35 weeks pregnant and 5 days prior found out exh was with OW so he was kissing up then. I haven't had a good Valentines day in a long time!
See if you can set up a great day with your kids. Make a big family feast together and play some games or watch a movie together. Get them some valentines candy, etc. Make it all about a great family day together.
Then thank the Lord for your family and blessings, especially that little one of yours who is growing up oh so fast.
Kevin
Me 36, W 37 M: 08/02/97 D13, D9 1st Bomb 02/08 Reconciled 04/08 2nd Bomb: 09/08 W filed for D 02/04/09 Separated 03/09 D dismissed 06/09/09 Still separated...
