Flowmom, I have noticed how good you are at organizing your thoughts!! Thank you, your list sounds right on with the addition of

giving me some peace from the pain of not having desire reciprocated!!

me,34
exH,34
S,16 months
S:3/31/09-left for OW
started DBing 10/09
d final: sometime 10/10
current:
http://www.divorcebusting.com/forums/ubbthreads.php?ubb=showflat&Number=2022856&page=1
met in 2004