mb, you did great w/ your talk on Saturday! No matter how you do it, OWH needs to know.
So if your H knows you don't approve of the A, you are not pressuring him right now, he knows you want to work on M, then... (VERY VERY HARD TO DO) I think MWD says to go about your life, (GAL) but try to think of areas where the OW is providing pleasure for your H and improve those areas.
But do not go for improving those areas if it is too painful for you...being distant+GAL might just be the best remedy.and patience....
me,34 exH,34 S,16 months S:3/31/09-left for OW started DBing 10/09 d final: sometime 10/10 current: http://www.divorcebusting.com/forums/ubbthreads.php?ubb=showflat&Number=2022856&page=1 met in 2004