Its disturbing too me how similar death is to divorce.
Cutter, your spouse must be blind. Seriously, and that may be in the literal or at least a mental sense.
Don't mean to put her down mind you. She may be going through a lot of pain just like my STBX is probably going through.
Started another thread about this and I am having more empathy for the WAW from what I learned about it.
Ladybug is not blind. She just have a different view or perspective now. I saw that pain in her eyes a few weeks ago. It hurt to not be able to help. I have talked to some peers in the real world who are 10 to 20 years out on this stuff. And they say it still hurts all those years later to see someone you loved very much carrying hurt. And you can/should not do anything about it as it was the path they decided to follow.
Empathy is on the path to forgiveness. You may not be able to offer it to your spouse. But at least you need to work towards offering it for yourself. I do not think I will fully empathize with the concept of deliberately choosing the path of hurting someone on purpose. But, at least I can forgive this choice. It does take time. And there is a required amount of recycling. But it is achievable if you make it a goal in all this life altering event. Look around in the real world. I am sure you will meet many WAS's Perhaps some could use the perspective of the LBS.
Flowers always make people better, happier, and more helpful; they are sunshine, food and medicine for the soul. unconditional love is awesome!
