This beacon of light, welcome place to come home to, smelling good, boobs lifted w/a new bra, hair blown straight like he likes it, slender jeans, cute blouse, kids w/clean faces, home shined, and in order, clothes cleaned and where he needs them, dog puffed and welcoming, appropriate enjoyable activities planned...WIFE - AND - HOME
Do you see that crap up there in RED?
OK, let me explain... (because you sometimes feign ignorance)... ALL of that stuff up there is good. It makes you shine... but the motivation for them is NOT good. You are doing all those things for HIM. That's the wrong reason. You do those things for YOU because it instills a sense of pride and makes you feel good.
Let me try another way of saying it: MF you are doing all of the above with EXPECTATIONS... and as thick headed as he is... he seems to know it. Although it IS the right thing to do... you may need to 180 on some of the above.
How long have you been doing all of the above? If it has been for longer than a month then perhaps its time to cut off the "clean clothing for him" and the four hour cooking of his favorite meals. Do you see how you are STILL rewarding him? And how you are being "slapped in the face" for doing that?
Keep up the looking attractive part... but for yourself this time... and because it makes you feel better.
Would like to see what anyone else says about this.
M:11 | T:12 | Status: Married 4C's of WAS communication: Cool, Calm, Collected and CONFIDENT
