about discussing dating...it could be part of your boundary definition during separation. You ask (brainstorming here) "so, are we choosing to date other people during our separation?"
he says blah blah "why?"
you say "I thought you were implying that you might date so I wanted clarification on what we were agreeing to do during our separation."
then you drop it/change subject.
I kind of like that idea. I'd be curious to know what the DB coach would think about it. Although, I already basically kind of did something similar about a month ago, right after he moved out (because of him telling my friend that he wanted to date, which I'm sure he knew would get back to me). I said "if we are dating, I want to agree that our children are to have no contact with the date-ee without notifying the other parent". He looked shocked. I don't know if that was shocked because I might have seemed like I knew that he was already dating (if he was), or if he wasn't ready to start dating, or if it introduced the idea of me dating. He seemed really uncomfortable and said he would get back to me about it, and never did.
me: 42 | STBXH: 41 | T: 18 | M: 10 | separation: Jan 3, 2010 | they deserve better: S7 & D4 current thread: http://tinyurl.com/3y8sxcp .: first breathe, then heal, then start LIVING :.
