Allen A, Thank you. I do think his A is becoming less enjoyable. When the OW has called my H in the past (after our separation), she would block her phone # by using *67 so it showed up on my records as 99999999. Before we separated, she didn't do that, so that is how I have her cell#. However, Saturday night at 10pm she called his cell# without blocking her #. I have a feeling it's because she is pushing him, and now wants me to find out that they are still talking. I haven’t told my H that I’m still checking the phone records, and have not said anything to him about this intel.
I do think the shame and guilt has pushed my H to just want out of the M. He told me Saturday night that he doesn't understand why I would want to be with him, when he keeps hurting me and that I deserve someone better. He admitted that he is very depressed, and doesn't know what to do. He feels either decision he makes (D or M) he will regret. I just listened and finally told him that I know our M is capable of surviving this if we work together. However, I can't help him until he is ready to commit to the M. That night and the next day he texted me "I feel better after our talk" I just replied "I'm glad" and left it at that.
Together 16 years Married 12 years Me 36 H 34 D9 & S6 Separated 12/3/09 Confirmed A 1/25/10 Exposed A 1/26/10 H hired L, but not filed yet 1/27/10
