Thanks everyone for listing and replying, this board really helps. I have been reading through other posts and can't believe how similar a lot of the situations are to mine. I have ordered the DB book and am looking forward to reading it. I have read about 180's and other things to do to change and freely admit there are things I need to change for myself that would make me a better person which is good for all involved. I guess my next question would be: What next? I am working on getting a telephone coaching session that I can pay for without W finding out. I could really use some more suggestions to move forward. Sandy and Puppy have some really good advice. I know to expect my W to get mad at times. I have stopped giving her a kiss goodnight and goodbye and told her why do it if it didn't mean anything to her. Went to super bowl party without her and she offered to make a snack tray for me to take to friends house, which she did and I told her thanks. I don't want to give an ultimatum and have read about boundaries. Is it time for something like this or too early or too late? I know I am guilty of thinking now that I GET IT, she should see it and try harder too. I need to be patient.
I know every sitch is different, but it seems like maybe they're not. I would appreciate that little push in the right direction. Thanks again, this place is a blessing!
