Quote:
Guilt doens't always make people nicer people... it may just make him desperate and impulsive... if he feels really guilty he may just divorce you to end the guilt...


Man oh man does this ring true round these parts! IMO "making" someone feel guilty does not help them CHOOSE to end the A; it causes them to feel pressured or manipulated and they want to avoid the unpleasant person inflicting guilt and run to their safe mistress.

That's why I like Allen's suggestion of just stating the facts, and if he happens to feel guilty because of the facts you state, thank God- it means he IS human!


me,34
exH,34
S,16 months
S:3/31/09-left for OW
started DBing 10/09
d final: sometime 10/10
current:
http://www.divorcebusting.com/forums/ubbthreads.php?ubb=showflat&Number=2022856&page=1
met in 2004