Issues for me are: sole custody/joint custody, travel out of province and summer vacation duration
Re: sole/joint custody - I don't think that I can rely on him to make sound decisions re:kids right now.. And his time warp mind right now makes it difficult to get a response, plus I want to avoid more spew calls.. However, joint only means that I have to discuss "major" decisions.. not minor ones..
re: Travel - On one hand, I don't think he would take off with kids.. but what if this OW isn't the last OW? What if he gets another OW in a farther country? I don't want to go on record anywhere saying I agree to let him merely "notify" me when he wants to go on a long trip with kids, and not be able to have a say re: appropriateness of travel arrangements etc.
However, he cannot take them out of country without a passport for them and there needs to be both signatures on it to get one (as of now that is).
Another recommendation by L was to put a clause stating "agreement reverts to sole custody should parent (H) move out of province". Because of the fact it is difficult in her opinion to co-parent from separate countries.. That would start WWIII!
Plus he wants to be able to take them for 6 weeks in summer (guess where) which due to age of D3 and son's disability, would be too long to not see me and probably ruin summer camp plans (and funding) for S13 as I have to secure funding for camp and register in Feb of each year to ensure spot for him... And H wants to let me know a few weeks before whether going or not..
My plan right now is to stall on sending him a revision.. but if it goes to court it can't look like I'm uncooperative either (that's what I would claim about him with emails as backup)
Any thoughts, suggestions, tips, similar sitchs?
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