A HUGE hurdle is my history of demanding and aggressive behaviors. Standing up and being strong and confident may give the impression of aggression and petulance. Not what I want.

I'm on board w/ most of the suggestions, but I want her to know that her POV is important to me as well.

We each have requirements re: respect and consideration. If they aren't being met, we should be able to discuss them without drama.-- maybe that's a good way to phrase it to her?


Thanks to all who have chimed in. I appreciate the advice.

~Mark

Me: 38
W: 34
Together: 9yrs
1st M: may '03
1st D: april '08
1st bomb: june '08
remarried: oct '08
2nd bomb: aug '09 --(W asked for D one week into 3 mo. trial separation which was meant to save our M)