We talk a good game about unconditional love, but we are not conditioned for it.
I think we are better conditioned to give that unconditional love to our children.
The Love that I have for my MLC W is not unlike that love that I have for my children, in that it is unconditional. It keeps me going and keeps me committed to the time it is going to take.
The expectation part comes later and it is more of an expectation of me. Can my Love for my childlike W move back to a Love that is shared between a husband and wife, that are mutaully committed to one another.
I think I said it in an earlier post as long as there is some pain I know I still care and that Love is still alive in me. It is fear of when I no longer feel the pain and all I have is the ILYBINILWY for my W, will I be able to get the "in Love" feeling back? That is probably the final level of detatchment that is required to Love yourself more.
Formerly "missherlove"
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Expose yourself to your deepest fear; after that, fear has no power, and the fear of freedom shrinks and vanishes. You are free.