ST - Topical stuff only. I'm safe! Call will have to wait until tomorrow... Another day of a sick H at home. GOD HELP ME! I'm just staying out of the way!
Me-46, D-21, S15, S13
After many years w/my head in the sand... I FILED Divorced 6/2011
The average woman would rather have beauty than brains, because the average man can see better than he can think.
Mind, a question for you. Have you ever read "The five Languages of Love" by Gary Chapman. I just read it and also got my W to read it. Seems we don't speak the same languages. My guess is that you and your H also speak different languages. Maybe you both have to learn the other ones language. Just a thought.
I'm not sure if I have mind snakes or what, but I read it, think of myself, and think... "Shoot, I love them all!!!"
I think H's are AofS.
He wouldn't read it. I gave him THREE PAGES to read once in a book. Never happened. He might, though, if I got it on tape to listen to while he's driving.
Not a bad idea, actually.
It's kind of hard to present him w/that though, when I'm trying to ignore him!
Me-46, D-21, S15, S13
After many years w/my head in the sand... I FILED Divorced 6/2011
The average woman would rather have beauty than brains, because the average man can see better than he can think.
If you know H is acts of service then you can take test at back and figure out yours. I'll guess "touch" Maybe H doesn't have to read book if you already know his. If you perform acts of service and that is his language then you are communicating your love to him. You may not even need to talk. Of course getting him to respond to your language is more difficult. But you should at least know what YOUR language is.
Answer when spoken to (nicely), and only initiate conversation when it has to do w/kids, house, logistics... Then, BREAK IT OFF!
I'm not sure if I can tell how it is working, as H is sick right now (wah wah wah), and he's, for the most part, a crab. And, guess who is not offering meds, info, etc... My only piece of advice yesterday. "You need to go to a Dr. for that." (I was tired of all of the questions, and questioning my answers... probably trying to get under my skin for lack of talktalktalking...) He did go to the Dr, and, yes, he has strep throat, just like S12.
GOD HELP ME!
This am, he's crabby, as we had to drop off my car to get get fixed. We're riding together, alone, in his car, and he's attempting conversation after shooting a few minimal zingers... He finally says, "Don't you have any response?" Me, "No, I'm sorry, did you say something? I was thinking about something." Him, "Nevermind!" Then, he was on to another subject, and I just sat there minding my own business, offering only a brief response.
We get home, and he attempts to get me to play a game of backgammon w/him. Me, "OH, I'm sorry, I have to get to work right away this am."
He's not loving this, but not sure if he gets it, or is just now fogged over w/strep fog!
Me-46, D-21, S15, S13
After many years w/my head in the sand... I FILED Divorced 6/2011
The average woman would rather have beauty than brains, because the average man can see better than he can think.
MF, (yikes, that abbreviation could be interpreted wrong!)
thanks for stopping by my thread! I think you don't tell H what yours is until later....like when he starts to pursue you, right? Is that your goal?
but I thought you thought his was conversation???
me,34 exH,34 S,16 months S:3/31/09-left for OW started DBing 10/09 d final: sometime 10/10 current: http://www.divorcebusting.com/forums/ubbthreads.php?ubb=showflat&Number=2022856&page=1 met in 2004
Answer when spoken to (nicely), and only initiate conversation when it has to do w/kids, house, logistics... Then, BREAK IT OFF!
I'm not sure if I can tell how it is working, as H is sick right now (wah wah wah), and he's, for the most part, a crab. And, guess who is not offering meds, info, etc... My only piece of advice yesterday. "You need to go to a Dr. for that." (I was tired of all of the questions, and questioning my answers... probably trying to get under my skin for lack of talktalktalking...) He did go to the Dr, and, yes, he has strep throat, just like S12.
GOD HELP ME!
This am, he's crabby, as we had to drop off my car to get get fixed. We're riding together, alone, in his car, and he's attempting conversation after shooting a few minimal zingers... He finally says, "Don't you have any response?" Me, "No, I'm sorry, did you say something? I was thinking about something." Him, "Nevermind!" Then, he was on to another subject, and I just sat there minding my own business, offering only a brief response.
We get home, and he attempts to get me to play a game of backgammon w/him. Me, "OH, I'm sorry, I have to get to work right away this am."
He's not loving this, but not sure if he gets it, or is just now fogged over w/strep fog!
And, then she asked, and I replied...
Newmama - Good line of thought, here...
What am I expecting/wanting to happen?
Let's see... be wanted/needed again?
Realistically, I'm expecting to feel better because I'm not "feeding" a person who leaves me "starving," anymore.
Hope that doesn't sound malicious. Because I don't mean it to be... _________________________
Me-46, D-21, S15, S13
After many years w/my head in the sand... I FILED Divorced 6/2011
The average woman would rather have beauty than brains, because the average man can see better than he can think.
