Back here, for the second time... #69

[MichelleLT]

Those pesky expectations kill you. You expected him to compliment you, to react to the music and dinner.

When I was depressed, none of that would have affected me either. (Of course, I was depressed cuz my H left me for a younger woman, so the chances of us having a date night were less than a snowball's chance in hell).

Re the hand touching: did you touch his hand (you have stated numerous times he follows your lead)???

Regardless, he is depressed. His problem.

Focus on you my dear. You get too tied up in his stuff, you let him and your expectations drag you down.

As for OW, he was depressed with her. She was just an escape, and at first he put on a good show for her. But then he couldn't pretend, even with her, and she started to become unhappy with their R. She was not some magical cure my dear, she was a symptom of his problem that provided a temporary escape. That's all it was. Don't waste your time dwelling on it.