about discussing dating...it could be part of your boundary definition during separation. You ask (brainstorming here) "so, are we choosing to date other people during our separation?"
he says blah blah "why?"
you say "I thought you were implying that you might date so I wanted clarification on what we were agreeing to do during our separation."
then you drop it/change subject. I don't know if this is good advice but it isn't applying pressure about ending the separation and choosing reconciliation....
me,34 exH,34 S,16 months S:3/31/09-left for OW started DBing 10/09 d final: sometime 10/10 current: http://www.divorcebusting.com/forums/ubbthreads.php?ubb=showflat&Number=2022856&page=1 met in 2004
