She said "not to put this all on you but it didnt have to be like this and that you were the one who made it this way". I told her I didnt want to start the blame game. She said that she still didnt really have any solutions to make both of us happy and I told her that the only one I had she would probably not be comfortable with as it involved talking and spending quality time both as a family and as two friends. She said she needed time to think about it.
With the way she's done me lately that likely translates as "I dont want to make you cry like a little baby (which is really how she characterizes my feelings when I express them) so I'll take a few days before I tell you no". Either that or she has to consult with the OM to see if he's ok with it.
YOU HAVE BEEN DUMPED! IF anything you should be glad you arent legally married and do not have to sell your house to pay a lawyer who already has a nicer house than you for a divorce.
I think your wife/girfriend/ ex is just being nice to you right now and if you don't cut it out and move on gracefully and with a little self respect that her niceness is going to come to end soon.
In reality, and sorry if I sound like a one-trick pony, there does come a time when you need to quick working and worrying about your relationship problems and begin working on yourself as an individual. She has given you enough hints. Despite what you think, she has told you over and over how she feels and what she wants. Just because she is not saying what you want to hear does not mean she has never told you. She probably told you over and over during your relationship. You just didnt listen.
