Wife lost her love for me - my story

[courageous wife]

It is understandable that you are angry and sometimes it just comes out...you move on! Your W was putting "her phone" first over your D. It is one thing to do that to the LBS but another to the children! So, forgive yourself and get back to what you were doing!

I know it is not the easy but after H left, DBing got a lot easier for me. I could breathe again and not worry about saying or doing the wrong things or snooping in his stuff etc. I have days where I wonder how can he see the good changes I am making in myself but as these wise people on these boards have pointed out, the changes are not for H, they are for ME and he will notice as your W will too!

My H's birthday was yesterday and I called him to wish him a good one and then invited him to come to dinner. He was not thrilled, you could hear it in his voice but he did accept! He was very quiet when he got here, almost like it was an inconvenience to him but I kept my smile and happy tone and we ate and had conversation during dinner, he played with the kids for a little while and really perked up! A couple of months ago, I would probably have gone to the other room and cried or told him nevermind on the phone. As Lost Rabbit pointed out to me when I complained that I had hoped for more, that this was a baby step for H. It is so hard for US, the LBS to see these things.

As for dating, you will find lots of differing opinions on that here. I have made a choice to not do that. I am still married whether he is here or not...hope you have a good day!