Upsetting her = communication shutdown. I want dialog. I've gone out of my way to show her I understand her POV, and want the same from her. She spent the last 6 mos disregarding me, but I spent that time trying to force her to pay attention. She's resistant to opening up and she'll think this is another attempt to worm my way into her life.

I'll sketch out a few short versions and run them by my C today, taking everyone's advice into account.

~Mark

Me: 38
W: 34
Together: 9yrs
1st M: may '03
1st D: april '08
1st bomb: june '08
remarried: oct '08
2nd bomb: aug '09 --(W asked for D one week into 3 mo. trial separation which was meant to save our M)