Your words again scare me, although, I think that my issues aren't as deep as yours or others on this forum. Thank you for your support and wishes.
My two children are now adults and we are mostly empty nesters except during the holidays and for the moment.
The part about selling yourself out, rings true to me as well. Last night my wife lamented about 15 lost years due to our not being able to be close to each other. As you say better now than never.
Good luck to you and your wife.
>43 years of marriage--My wife and I are now closer than we have been in decades. I believe that my SSM is over.