MB I wish I had handled it the way Allen suggests!
But, I totally believed my WH only had an EA until some time in April when I forced myself to look up the credit card bills that I had filed but never scrutinized. Sure enough, I saw the 10/28/08 date for a stay at a nice hotel on the beach (3 days before I found out I was pg)
When I talked to my IC about it (who was going to be our MC originally and had talked 1:1 with WH), my IC said that sex often seals the deal for men. It is their way of being intimate and they "fall in love" once they sleep with a woman they are having an EA with.
HOWEVER EA or PA...the point is he is not making a choice for your M at this time. What do you want to do?
me,34 exH,34 S,16 months S:3/31/09-left for OW started DBing 10/09 d final: sometime 10/10 current: http://www.divorcebusting.com/forums/ubbthreads.php?ubb=showflat&Number=2022856&page=1 met in 2004