Is that gain worth the damage and risk you incur by pursuing that admission?
It's possible you think your pursuing his admission wears on his guilt even further. And you may be right...
I am not going to suggest pursuing that or not. I am going to suggest you don't do ANYTHING in your relationship without a good constructive reason. If you don't have good reason then you are acting on IMPULSE which is what HE's doing... that hardly ever ends well for anyone... Always have a goal when you say or do anything with your spouse. And ask yourself before you do it... will this get me closer to that goal?
There are a few different ways to handle this other than pursuit if you want. One of the best I think is to just BYPASS the proof part. Just act and speak as if you both know there's a PA happening and IGNORE him when he denies it. Just pretend you didn't even hear the denail.
W : Your affair is hurting our children, me, and you
H : I'm not having an affair.
W : Households experiencing affairs can repair the damage, and I am willing to work with a family therapist do try that.
H : There's no affair.
W : I won't wait forever.
H : I'm not cheating.
W : You are heading in the direction of a part-time father.
Wife walks away...
The OTHER thing is he may be playing with the MEANING of AFFAIR. You might want to find some articles outlinging Emotional affairs and how destuctive they are and put them in front of him.
He likley is just toying with some pathetic definition that doen'st fit.
