Oh Gno! What is going on?

[chatterbug]

To find a woman takes time and money.

woman = time x money

And since time = money

time = money

Therefore

Woman = Money x Money

And money is the root of all problems

Money = (square root sign ) problems

Therefore
woman = ((square root sign ) problems ) x

Therefore
woman = problems

[Gardener]

otmt,

Isn't the hardest part knowing when to detach? Is it when you've moved out, filed, and are weeks away, or is it earlier?

You can't really "do" detach (you can go dark, NC, etc.).
If you do everything else Db-wise, for you, eventually detachment...happens.

[Gardener]

cutter,
Good theory and good math & logic. However

And money is the root of all problems

It's "The love of money is the root of all evil."

As for me, as I've said before, my approach is going to be to simply live my life and sees who shows up.

[chatterbug]

I was writing out a joke found on the internet I know what the root of all evil is.

Panda's

[Gardener]

Hijack:

Please visit Gypsy at Surviving The Big D today.

[Gnosis]

Short Situation Update:

Dialog from a recent conversation with Mrs Gno:

W: I don't want a divorce.
G: I don't believe you.

Status: It looks like she's entering the first stage of remorse.

[Cadet]

Therefore
woman = problems

However NO woman Not equal to No problems

Status: It looks like she's entering the first stage of remorse

Is this good or bad?

[Gnosis]

Stolen from Puppy:

To me, she sounds like she's still in Stage 2 in what I call the 4 Stages of Remorse:

I do think your wife is in one of the stages of remorse, but there are several stages. They'll go from "I'm sorry I got caught," to "I'm sorry for ME that I've messed myself up so much," to "I'm sorry for YOU that I hurt you (but I still don't see anything wrong with what I did)," to finally a more self-aware "I'm sorry for what I did because IT WAS THE WRONG THING TO DO, on so many levels. For me, for the pain I caused my husband, for the breaking of my vows, etc."

The above is tied to infidelity. My extrapolation is this:

1) I'm sorry I asked for D
2) I'm sorry for my mistakes
3) I'm sorry for YOU that I hurt you
4) I'm sorry for what I did because IT WAS THE WRONG THING TO DO, on so many levels

Or something similar to that.

[v1olin]

My wife actually wrote in her journal that it was "a sh!tty thing to do" (divorcing me, that is) but she was talking about how hurt she was going to be if her EA friend did not want her for real. She felt like she was "setting herself up for a big disappointment" - NO! REALLY?? what stage of remorse was that I wonder? She wrote that in september I think.

[jasper67]

Give her something to worry about- when there's no net it's a lot higher than you think.