Reading the archives will settle the panic you are experiencing. No matter how hard you try to understand all about mlc, there will be traits that are specific to your h and his childhood. Everyone has seen many of the behaviors, but no two situations are the same. That's why I mentioned Sting's situation and what has transpired with the finances. It all depends up your h. However, you do have control over you and your children's lives while he's MIA. You will need to dig deeper for the strength and patience. It's going to be a long haul and you will need all of the strength you can find.
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.
