It is good that you are looking at yourself. No matter what happens, you will have to deal with the anger and any other negative emotion before you will be able to move on in any relationship whether it is with W or someone new. I don't know about sending her the e-mail. At this point, it may seem a bit desperate. I think if you really feel that way then show her with your actions. I know it is hard, but don't avoid her, but instead when you see her with the girls make some small talk or at least smile. Be kind. I understand it is hard because you are so broken and upset about the direction of everything, but showing her is much better than just saying it.
Have a good week!
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