Positive developments? #2

[jon2911]

W called during the Super Bowl to tell me she found living arrangements and not to worry about it. Great timing W! I was ticked. What a roller-coaster. Great Saints win though! Thanks for coming K4D!

I was feeling angry and sad after the game, feeling like once again W was so close to coming back. And I keep offering my heart only to have it broken again. I decided not to revert to unhealthy self-protection, it's never worked in the past and won't work now. I choose to love.

Called W, and we had a great talk. Without being pushy or going to far, I stayed nonchalant and asked some questions about what's going on. Turns out her family is helping her a lot, and she's decided to move in with her grandparents. She has some massive debt problems (not a surprise), and she says only they can help. They're helping her get out of her lease and straighten things out.

"Wow, you must have really listened at that Dave Ramsey event" I said. "Yes, and the fear of FIL" she said. Her words. We joked about FIL saying he was Ramsey before Ramsey was Ramsey. FIL gave her an old PC to replace her dead laptop, she didn't tell him she bought a Netbook which comes today. His comment was "you have a huge family, why don't you ever ask us for help on things like this?" This has been the tension of W's life. How much family help and control is healthy? Not easy to answer.

She said she's scared to death moving to the grandparents, and her nightmares have been terrible. She's planning to move in the next couple weeks. Hopefully we're still on for Valentines, but I didn't mention it.

I really wish she would move back now, but maybe this will be a good thing. It gives me a chance to get out of more debt and focus on my job. And she should be in much better shape in a few months. The benefits question will come up around April, cross that bridge then.

Woke up at 5:00 AM, couldn't sleep, so sorted through some mail and then hit the gym with a couple Ramsey podcasts. I have some financial stuff to take care of, and the inspection on Thursday. Stressed, but feeling good.