No I don't know the guy. The 1st affair was not physical as he lived several states away. This one is a different guy, and I don't know who it is and I do not know whether or not it is physical. I want to find out, but I know it really doesn't matter. He is not better than me, just different.
Right now I am just trying to get my head straight for the trip home this week (assuming this snow lets up and my flight is not canceled). This weekend will determine a lot. I am going to tell her that I will not give her space just to run to this other guy. I am afraid it will not go well and that will be the end. I know that "it" is a fantasy, but darn it, it is a good one.
At this point I am looking at the worst case scenario: She has not worked in 13 years so she can't afford jack squat if/when I cut her off. If I got the kids, then I would not have to worry about child support and I would know that they would not have to drastically change their lifestyle. I checked the "child support tables" for my state and if she got the kids (which most states seem to do now) she would get enough to pay the mortgage and utilities. Nothing more. As far as alimony goes, I don't know, but I know she would have to get a job and be dead broke.
I know she knows this, but she obviously is not thinking right now.
Me 36 W 40 S 13, 9, 7 ILYBNILWY 2-08 Discovered EA 3-08 Reconciled 7-08 She says she's been faking it 11-09 She wants to separate 12-09
