Let's hope it's a permanent condition and not one just for the short duration.
Me too. Trouble is I don't actually feel like being nice back anymore He took the humiliation to the nth degree and I'm not sure I can ever forgive that. I know I should but to be honest I had more compassion for him at the beginning of all this than I do now.
Me 43 XH 45 M 2.7.88 Divorce 7.10.09 Kids D20,S17 & D15
Me: 46 H:44 Together: 25 years Married: 20 years Separated: 11-30-06 Divorced 12-21-07 OW: EA began 2005 PA began end of 2006 3 children,20, 16, 6 ex asked for forgiveness 01/16/11
I wonder, and I could be so wrong, if he's being 'nice' because he's going to have to have you on his side with D14 and S17 being more at your house than his. He's going to need you more now.
Just a thought.
Me:57 H:52 M:28 Got another lawyer last year and filed. D35,S/D twins28,D22 EA4/04 End? Who knows? "Life is like a mirror. Smile at it and it smiles back at you." — Peace Pilgrim
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.
BM, I think you hit the nail on the head. If you want my honest opinion I think the only reason he is being nice is b/c he is worried sick that S17 will come home and he will loose all that money that goes with him. That's precisely why I don't feel like being nice back
Me 43 XH 45 M 2.7.88 Divorce 7.10.09 Kids D20,S17 & D15
Hey Alison! I can't say for sure why he would suddenly be nice but would venture to say it is because he wants something. As far as posting, I think it still serves me well even though I have been divorced a year and a half. I did move over to surviving.
Believe me, issues still come up now and not just with ex. Always nice to have a sounding board even if we are all virtual!
Keep the positive stuff going. kat
Me-53(and learning!) S24, S21, D18, D17 Just keep swimming, Just keep swimming. Dory
Well I think I'm going to give internet dating up as a bad job. It was fun at first but now I'm finding it a bit tedious. I think I just need to get back to where I was pre-August so I can feel comfortable being by myself. It's harder than you think
Me 43 XH 45 M 2.7.88 Divorce 7.10.09 Kids D20,S17 & D15
I hit an all time low this weekend. I'm very tearful and have no reason why. It's ironic really b/c on Friday evening I went out and had a lot of attention paid to me. I thought that's what I wanted but in retrospect it has to be attention from the right person and he's otherwise engaged
Me 43 XH 45 M 2.7.88 Divorce 7.10.09 Kids D20,S17 & D15
Oh ACJ! You're still grieving! It does take awhile. Try to keep busy this week, and take it one weekend at a time.
Me:57 H:52 M:28 Got another lawyer last year and filed. D35,S/D twins28,D22 EA4/04 End? Who knows? "Life is like a mirror. Smile at it and it smiles back at you." — Peace Pilgrim
I'm sorry you're feeling so low. Try to avoid catastrophic thinking (I'll never meet anyone, my life is ruined, etc.). Easier said than done, I know. Maybe you need to just hang out with women for awhile-- just be goofy and have fun, no pressure. Give your heart a chance to heal before you jump back in the dating game. Sisterhood is powerful.
He took the humiliation to the nth degree and I'm not sure I can ever forgive that. I know I should but to be honest I had more compassion for him at the beginning of all this than I do now.
