With the technology today, the Messenger is instant.. From what I understand, once you delete it.. its gone!!..

I am not a tecky so not 100% sure..

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ILYBNILWY ( Dec 2009)
Sleeping separate rooms April 8 2010.
Sep as of 07/14/2010
W moving out 07/31/2010
No OM confirmed ( yet)