Ok. So you set up a payment plan and get her to sign it. And make sure she sticks to it. Business transaction. If you cannot do this. Then you eat those losses. P.S. you never lend money to your spouse. You give it to them. As it is a shared pool. If this occurred when you were first separating. Then you did this to show what a good guy you are. Lesson learned. Never give money to a person who is walking away from you. Gifts do not work. lesson learned.
Now do you have any agreements in place for money right now? If not get one in writing. If you are giving her money. Stop. Start deducting it off the total you are owed.
Civil and nice. Always remain civil and nice. Unless there is a 100% disrespect. Then you can remain civil minus the nice.
For no matter what she is your wife. And you should show the position respect until either the person regains respect or all contact ends. Always do what is right. Even though it is a difficult path to take right now maynard. Forgiveness is more important for you. For if you never forgive. You will never be able to move forward.
So next time you bring up finances. Bring them up as a bank. State the problem, show the options and offer solutions. Then give her time to think and respond.
Either way you kill 2 birds with one stone. You need to document all this information anyways for the divorce. 2nd, you need to document all this information to prove to yourself ( and wife) that you did provide for her.
Your reading those books but are you taking notes
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Keep turning the corner maynard. I think you are going to enjoy the next straight part.
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