With the technology today, the Messenger is instant.. From what I understand, once you delete it.. its gone!!..
I am not a tecky so not 100% sure..
M 43 W 43 S15 S 12 D 10 ILYBNILWY ( Dec 2009) Sleeping separate rooms April 8 2010. Sep as of 07/14/2010 W moving out 07/31/2010 No OM confirmed ( yet)
See here is the thing.. by me DBing and NC, I dont bring anything up.. I let her initiate any conversation. I am short, but polite. She goes along her way and doesnt bring anything up regarding our R. Its like nothing is going on.
I find it difficult to just bring up the conversation. I know I should, but need to be cool about it.. So, I'm stuck..
M 43 W 43 S15 S 12 D 10 ILYBNILWY ( Dec 2009) Sleeping separate rooms April 8 2010. Sep as of 07/14/2010 W moving out 07/31/2010 No OM confirmed ( yet)
I was doing well with the whole DB and NC.. more than a week.. Not sure if it was making an impact..
Last night, W was paying bills on the net. I advised her that the truck lease is coming up next month and we need to make a decision about it. She said, I dont know. As I did... I did say, that we must think it through becasue of the unknown factor with regards to our R... she got quite..
But then, this morning, she was getting ready for work, I entered the bath room, tried to be funny, and she is in her robe.. I wussed out and grabbed her and hugged her.. She hugged back, but it was a crappy hug... You all know what I mean..
I AM SUCH A DIKK!!!....... I just went 3 steps backwards... I know it.. I am so pissed at myself.. Can I get this back on track and correct what I shouldnt have done..
M 43 W 43 S15 S 12 D 10 ILYBNILWY ( Dec 2009) Sleeping separate rooms April 8 2010. Sep as of 07/14/2010 W moving out 07/31/2010 No OM confirmed ( yet)
I did a 180 last night as she was sleeping on the coach for a bit.. Usually I tell her its late and come up.. With the whole DB thing for the past week and a bit, didnt tell her that at all.. I didnt care and left her there. She would always make her way up. Last night, I went down and covered her with a blanket and turned the TV off and lights.. She said, what I am doing.. I told her makeing it comfort for her. She said I will be right up. I told her not to worry get cumfy here... Night.
M 43 W 43 S15 S 12 D 10 ILYBNILWY ( Dec 2009) Sleeping separate rooms April 8 2010. Sep as of 07/14/2010 W moving out 07/31/2010 No OM confirmed ( yet)
That was nice of you, but I don't know if you should let her sleep with the coach in your house!
To set the record straight it wasn't me. I love the Greek too much and would not cross that boundary.
M22,H45,W45 S21/18D12 Retain faith that you will prevail in the end, regardless of the difficulties and at the same time confront the most brutal facts of your current reality, whatever they might be.
Does it make sense to do the DB and NC stuff for awhile before the conversation about its not going to work , and I am sorry, your right, we cant work, this will never work and separating is the right thing to do etc....
I am just torn with this.. thoughts.. please..
M 43 W 43 S15 S 12 D 10 ILYBNILWY ( Dec 2009) Sleeping separate rooms April 8 2010. Sep as of 07/14/2010 W moving out 07/31/2010 No OM confirmed ( yet)
It depends on how long you've been dealing with a walk away and how far they've gone to push you. Only you know when you've had enough then you enforce your boundaries and agree!
M44 H41 M20 T23 3 older teens Bomb Nov 09 "i'm not happy" EA Nov 09 w/coworker Another PA in Mar 10 I Filed Apr 10 D final Dec 10
