Until you begin to look out for your own needs, and from a position of "What is THE RIGHT THING TO DO in this situation? What is the thing that God Himself would have me do, if He were standing right in front of me?"
. . . instead of one of
"How will my wife react? How will her reaction make ME feel? Will she be angry? I don't like it when she's angry!"
. . . you'll never get anywhere.
Your first draft is WAY too wordy, an WAY to supplicating. Try Gucci's "I have decided that" phrasing, mixed with Gardener's boundaries structure, and you'll be much better off.
