understood- the issue is that she is supposed to come to the house later today. I wanted to have something in mind b/c I know what I will do if I do not have a plan.
I know that if she's there I can get the key back and make my stand. If it's by text she will not agree.
thanks for your input
you're still missing the point, why do you feel the need to communicate anything?!
Less is more.
If you have nothing to say, accept that, and don't say anything. You communicate to me right now that you have need to say something, you're still invested in this, let go of needing this, this will communicate more than any words you could come up with.
GNO- I agree w/ you about the dating part and other women- I borrowed it from someone just added to the DB quotes- I will abandon that thought and just stick to I like living alone, and the last part.
Hopefully she gives the key- if she does, she prob has a copy anyway.
And maynard you know she does not have to give back the key. Didn't you talk to a lawyer about this already?
Cutter, you beat me to it. Illegal in my state, too. Maybe every state.
HOWEVER, I DID get a "she has to notify me in advance to clear it" provision written into the very first (of so many) draft of our Mediated Separation Agreement. THAT, at least, is one thing she HAS honored since the beginning (if not much else)
Except the one time she dropped by unannounced while I was out to leave Christmas Cookies. Big whoop.
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Gardener
"My soul, be satisfied with flowers, With fruit, with weeds even; but gather them In the one garden you may call your own." Cyrano deBergerac
Thanks Cutter- still cant post from home b/c my computer is fried.
Update- pretty much no contact but had to text her about finances- she owes me quite a bit of money...I felt the text was polite: Can you make good on some of the money you owe me? I should have a renter soon, so that will help. i'm kinda left holding the bag."
W- you could sell my movado (if its even real) and my tanzanite ring...
M- I dont understand why the rude reply, you've borrowed money, if you dont have it you dont have it.
This situation has really bothered me- last week she said I "never provided for her."
She has not paid a thing in 4 months, I gave her money for her car (3 years ago), I paid her phone bill and half of her half of rent for years. I am starting to really want nothing to do w/ her.
I spent time w/ my friends this weekend, dinner movies, did the yard, cleaned the house and went for a 10 mi walk yesterday.
I read Codependant No More, 7 Marriage Principles, Contemplating Divorce, and Marriage Makeover.
W is supposed to come over to see the dogs later. I am tempted to lay into her over all that I've done in the past- and remind her of how selfish and self-centered she's being. Not sure that I will- I might just say nothing at all and let the silence prevail.
I couldnt agree more- I have been duped for years- it's been a one way street and I just dont know if I should call her out on it or not- what do you think Puppy?
I wouldn't make any grand pronouncements. I think you should LIVE YOUR OWN LIFE, and then "call her on" boundary violations as they occur. NOT to go seeking them with tough talk.
