A friend once suggested getting my wife drunk and slinging her over my shoulder and carrying her to the bedroom. Funny as a joke, but not my style in reality. But of course, not funny at all for the all too many women who've experienced that in the form of date rape, typically in college or around that time of their lives.
At risk of getting myself into all kinds of deep water - why not?
No date rape is not funny.
This is not date rape, you have been married for a number of years. Seriously is what she's doing to you any better? Forcing you into a situation where you have to go outside the marriage to get your needs met? Short of castrating you is there anything more cruel?
She had a bad thing happen to her when she was young is she going to let it ruin her life? And yours? It's genuinely about time she got the f&ck over it and it's about time you led the way.
if we can be sufficient to ourselves, we need fear no entangling webs Erica Jong
