You make it sounds so easy Rob... I have to rehearse this in my mind a few times to ensure it comes out cool and calm and most importantly confident.. Nicely put for me.. thanks

Also, Cutterbug you indicate that I should remove the interent.
I have a 3 kids, and 1 is in highschool.. Its the only computer we have other than my laptop which no one uses.. I cant really get rid of the net.

I guess she may also be getting a bit smarter because just recently say 2 months ago decided to get her own phone plan. She got the blackberry that has the messanger on it.. She is on that thing steady!!.. No way to spy on it to see whom she is messaging,and she deletes right after she writes stuff..
I have gone through the detaching list in detail which was provided on this site, and one of them talks about not spy on email or texts etc.. I feel the need that I have to.

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ILYBNILWY ( Dec 2009)
Sleeping separate rooms April 8 2010.
Sep as of 07/14/2010
W moving out 07/31/2010
No OM confirmed ( yet)