Just an update, I have been doing the best at NC and DBing at the same time.. Its tough because we sleep in the same bed and still live with each other. I havent emailed or texted her either but today she has text me more than any other day.. Its been about the kids and the dog mind you, but none the less 3 more texts that I usually dont get from her. I am doing the whole great attitude ( tough mind you) and pleasant with the kids and her at the same time etc etc..
Need some advice. I have a strong feeling now that she may be EA. ( not confirmed for sure) We have not done the split bank accounts or anything like that. Its been status quo other than me doing the NC and DBing.. What I ask everyone is, I want to put pressure on W. How do I slowly tell her that because of our circumstances currently I feel that a separate bank account and credit cards are somehting we should consider? Not sure really how to word this other than I want to put my point across that I am moving or forward with or without her.
Dont get me wrong, I want this M to work.. I am thinking out (loud) with my new friends here. Do you think I might be pushing this too much and should continue with the NC and DBing for awhile yet before I do that?
Sounds a bit rambling, but nervous too..
you say: "...currently I feel that a separate bank account and credit cards are somehting we should consider, if we're going to be divorcing might as well start with the financial aspect of it."
I used your words, you have to actually speak them, that's how it's done.
If she brings up lawyers you just look at her confidently and say "I'll let the lawyers worry about those details, that's what they get paid for"
and that's it, pleasant, cool, calm, confident, not argumentative.
