Forgiveness is an important part of a marital relationship. You are not really forgiving, you are holding grudges.
In a recent sermon at church, it was pointed out that forgiving someone means you are giving up the right to seek retribution for the harm they did to you. It means that you are choosing to accept that imbalance in your life.
Me: 44, Wife: 39 M: 17 years T: 20 years Bomb on 08/25/09 1/13/10: MC started 1/28/10, 2/8/10: More bombs 8/28/10: Wife moved out No talk of D, no movement
