I have some questions I really could use advice on.
Before the bomb my H and I, discussed putting the house and property in S26 name. This came up in the event of nursing homes, etc., in the future. When H dropped the bomb said he would turn over his half of the property to S26 relieving H of the financial burden of the place. In my fear I thought it best at the time that I also turn my half over to S26 with the clause of having life time use for myself and other children. (I would continue the financial responsibility for the my half of the property) I have since rethought this and do not want to turn my half over to S26 at this time. H doesn't know this yet. H brought it up to S26 due to the slow down at H and S26 work place that he is going to turn it over to him in March. I'm not sure if he will roll this up in the separation agreement or if this will be a separate issue. H is also under the impression that we will use the same L for all of this. I feel it is probably in my best interest to retain my own legal council just to protect myself. It is not for the purpose of bleeding H. I have no wish to do that at all even tho well meaning friends and family think I should. I have seen no evidence of H spending hoards of money, but everything had been pretty much separated financially during the M. (Not on each other's CC, etc.) When is the best time to tell H about these decisions of mine? I know he'll be angry that I want my own L. He threatened before that if I did that it would get the house involved and we would have to sell it. I have not said anything, because I do not want the property involved if I can avoid it. I haven't retained an L yet because there has been no legal action yet for the house or the separation, but I believe it's coming. The slow down at work has put H in some financial stress, although we were well aware for sometime that the slow down was coming. The ironic thing is that if H hadn't left everything would have financially been OK, a little tight, but better than it is for him right now.
Wise DBer's what are your thoughts on this? Thanks so much, I can't tell you how much I appreciate your incites.
