He said he is done!!

[lostnotgone]

Lost, I think that was great what you said to your kids. The next time my kids chat to me I think I should let them know that I haven't given up either.

I think in some instances it may be harder for your kids as they do understand. My S7 doesnt quite get it, however my S10 has a far better idea, but doesnt talk about it.

Thanks for your posts, you have given me some good tips.

Keep you the good work.

lea74,
Don't wait for your children to chat with you. Sit them down in a quiet peaceful place and let them know that both their parents still love them - that you know that this is hard on them and you - and I am sure deep down just as hard on your H. Let them know that there are things (no details) that you and your H have to work through (make sure they know that this is not all your H's fault - that both of you had your part in the problems - do not make your H the bad guy).

Tell them you don't know what will happen next but YOU are working as hard as you can. Your children must know that they can trust and tell you anything at anytime. Tell them that they can ask you anything - you may not be able to answer the question right away - that's ok.

I have always had a very open relationship with all my children and they have been my ROCK through all of this - I knew I had good kids - now I know I have really GREAT kids.

End the conversion with LOTS of hugs.