Separated, new baby, but still hopeful

[Gardener]

newmama,

Also, am I right that there seem to be more WAW scenarios on the DB forums than WAH?

Yep. Overwhelming margin, too, it seems to me.

I see formulas given to the men that all sound the same:
NC+GAL+date other women.

Yep, and some swear it works, but I see it as:
NC+GAL=You're still married!

When male vets suggest to the women "this is what worked for me"
I think, yeah, because women won't fly off the handle if their estranged H dates, they will just feel territorial and curious!They will be reminded that their H is desirable, and the act of dating is "confident" behavior. But men would want to kill the other guy and then their egoes would be crushed by their W (right?)I do not mean this to sound sexist; but there are some clear differences between the sexes.

Yeah, but bad sitch or not, OM/OW or not, infidelity should not be one of those "clear differences between the sexes," imo.

I have run into several female sitches where we are afraid to NC and date for fear of pushing WAH away/into D.

Just as well: "Two wrongs..., etc."

Seriously am thinking of 6 other sitches besides my own right now,

Make it "6 other sitches except my own right now." Not that it's any of my business, actually.

Hang in there. Nice to "meet" you and talk to you tonight, nm.