Separated, new baby, but still hopeful

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Newmama, i've been following your posts for months. i am astoinished at how you keep it together with h and ow and being around you son.

personal question, did you let your h in the delivery room? if so how in the world did you not loose your temper giving birth in pain to this man's son who is carrying on with someone else.

im in similiar boat and this will be h and my 2nd child together. he left us in nov me in high risk preg with 2 yr old working etc etc. i've been in and out of hospital through pregnancy and h not supported me or d.

now it's come time for me to deliever planned csection and there is no way possible to have him in there with me. i am still as angry as i was in nov. i would not be able to relax with him there and his excuses.

i'd have to agree with p17, h may be there when things are going well for son but a true test of love for children is when they are in crisis. h made a stupid choice his selfishness over his son. sadly being married before i've seen it with my older d, now 18. dad choosing ow over daughter. i hope that's not the case but...