You think you've tried everything, but you haven't meant any of it. It's just been hot air. You are desperate to keep your marriage together and you are submitting to her definition of what a marriage is in order to do that. Look at your marriage - is it what you want? If it isn't then stop putting up with it. Putting up with something is not strength although many people think it is because of the pain involved - putting up with something because the effort to change is harder than the pain we're in is the wimp's way.
One wants to be sure that one has done everything BEFORE threatening the "nuclear" option. I'm sure you'll agree that's not weakness. So patience necessarily means time. She has in fact explicitly said she needs more time. But she's certainly had more than enough at this point.
