That calls for you to immediately put up your hand in the "stop" position and say "PLEASE STOP IT. We both know you're lying to me right now, and it's incredibly disrespectful. If you want to try to reconcile, we can discuss that, but if you're just going to lie to me, then I'm going to leave."
She has specifically told me she is open to God's will for our marriage but is NOT in a place to try to reconcile right now. She is broken and needs time to heal.
With respect to the "please stop", it is exceedingly difficult to do when you have circumstantial evidence. Hence the "trust but verify" mantra.
