Thanks Puppy, Dane.

The text messages were December.
The calls were 1 week before she left - End of November
The locked phone was the day she left.
Thinking back, her phone was NOT locked 1 day before she left.
Attitude towards friends changing - months before she left.

I have read your threads Puppy. I don't know why I thought asking would accomplish anything.

So if I assume she is having an affair, my position is to drop the rope. But now she seems to be pursuing me a little. How should I respond to that?