Sandi, thank you for your candid message. Here is an update.
W sends me a text this afternoon. Asks if I would be open to a conversation. We arrange to speak in a few hours. One hour prior to the call she asks if we can meet for coffee instead. The coffee was 2.5 hours.
We meet and here are her comments:
- She again says she see the changes. She believes the changes are real. - She is blown away about how I have been handling this. - She is open to whatever I want for the separation agreement. - She again reiterated how impressed she was with my fitness. - At times she brought up some of the ways I hurt her. I told her I have apologized, I have owned the mistakes and I am working to grow from those mistakes, I can't change the past all I can do is focus on the future. - I told her she is driving the bus. She says she is but I am right beside her driving a sports car. - She says I seem happy. I seem like myself. - I said "I can understand you emotionally separated from me before you physically separated, and with that you may have been able to justify getting involved with someone else, is that the case?" ... she said "she has not and is not seeing anyone. That would only complicate things and she needs to focus on healing herself. She spends a lot of time alone." - We can do whatever I want on the separation agreement. She got it from a friend who said it was standard. She went on that basis. She now says we don't need it but if I want it that is fine. - She says she will be completely honest & honour her word and believes I will do the same. - She said she is still broken. - I told her I am stuck between a rock and a hard place. On the one hand every piece of common sense tells me to cover my butt if the worse case occurs but I do not want to take the psychological step. My heart is one towards personal growth and ultimately reconciliation. - She laughed A LOT. - She was not wearing her wedding bands.
