If you want to try, it is time calmly state that you are willing to work on this, and will work towards forgiveness and reconciliation... but ONLY IF he ends the R completely with OW and offers complete transparency. Then you stand your ground.
Depending how bad the A is, and depending on how long things have been bad in the M, this IMHO, will generally not work. It's a lot more difficult for the WAS to end the As. Although they should, but I'm just saying that most the time, it doesn't happen that easily. That's why Michelle says, no R talks, and start focusing on yourself. The As will usually continue, and it won't be words that will stop it, it will be actions.
luv, I definitely believe that you can put a boundary up with your H that if he wants to continue living in the home that you need for him to respect you and the children and keep any and all contact with OW outside of the home. If he decides he truly wants to work on the M and is ready to stop contact with her, then you will be ready to work on the M as well.
just mho.
fyi, don't make any rash decisions either, now that you have this new info.
Me 33 H 34 S9 S3 M 6 yrs (2gether 11 yrs) EA/PA 1/2006 DB 5/2006 H wants D 6/2006 H wants ME 8/2006 H "said" PA/EA over 8/2006 H erased OW off phone! 2/2007
"It is far better 2 choose humility & change oneself, than 2 wait in vain trying 2 chang someone else."
