Separated, new baby, but still hopeful

[newmama]

Whoa, Mindfull, good idea to make the bread yourself...and I'm intrigued by white chicken chili-YUMM!

I'm not in the alt yet. I mean I have an FB page but haven't joined the DBers group...it seems like a lot to juggle right now but I will one day!

About going darkER, here is what I am feeling more capable of doing:
-WH arrives, I greet him and leave. No dinners! (I have a q about that)
-AND/OR: WH arrives. I greet him and then head straight to working out, cleaning up, leaving for errands
-my demeanor will be same: friendly

So, mindfull madame, what will your actions look like?

p17- PLEASE expand on how NC could hurt my sitch more--what about the actions I listed above? And you are right, IMO, that NC did NOT kill your marriage!! W is killing it!

DBD I think I know what you mean...is this right:
my current DB tactics are not pulling us closer to R, I am having trouble detaching plus my lovebank is drying up, so I should consider doing something different, although NC may not be the answer?